Establishing Healthy Boundaries
“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.”- Unknown
Have you ever had a difficult time saying “No”; whether it was to a family member, friend, or romantic partner? Saying no or denying someone something can be very difficult especially if when you love and care about that individual. Many times we find ourselves in difficult situations because we chose to say “yes” when we probably should not have. We “set ourselves on fire”, meaning we extend ourselves and usually have to bear consequences. Those consequences can include stress; financial burdens; wasted time; and relationship issues, which can cause mental distress.
Healthy boundaries are those boundaries that are set to make sure mentally and emotionally you are stable. Setting boundaries is not always a “walk in the park”; it can be difficult sticking to your guns and saying “no”. Sometimes people will respect you for setting those boundaries, other people will get mad. The reality is you may even lose some people in your life by setting and keeping those boundaries. Even if the latter is the case, you have the RIGHT to set boundaries that keep you at peace. Always protect your peace!